Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Tuesday, September 6, 2011
Sunday, September 4, 2011
City of Violence, Korean movie
Not possible in real life. Scrum fighting, aerial kicks. And if it was real, they'd be really brutal. But then again, they are only schoolchildren.
Sunday, July 3, 2011
More Engineering DIY project tutorials
I am really thankful to the people who take the time to put up their projects so other people can learn.
Solar Panel
http://www.mdpub.com/SolarPanel2/index.html
Wind Turbine
http://www.mdpub.com/Wind_Turbine/index.html
http://www.mdpub.com/Wind_Turbine/index.html
Telescope
http://www.mdpub.com/scopeworks/index.html
http://www.mdpub.com/scopeworks/index.html
Solar Panel
http://www.mdpub.com/SolarPanel2/index.html
Wind Turbine
http://www.mdpub.com/Wind_Turbine/index.html
http://www.mdpub.com/Wind_Turbine/index.html
Telescope
http://www.mdpub.com/scopeworks/index.html
http://www.mdpub.com/scopeworks/index.html
Solar Power: Basic Tutorial
Needed items:
1) Solar Panels
2) a Charger Controller
3) a Power Inverter
4) Storage Batteries
After this my godbro's bugging me to make him a hoverbike. Well,
Putting My Engineering Background to Good Use
Since I got my 2 turtles I've been trying to find better ways, (aka cheaper), to take care of them, without scrimping on their care. It's like I'm the cheap parent figure who will take my kids out to eat, but doggie bag the leftovers for another meal. Yes, it's my upbringing. Why waste good food?
And for my turtles, why waste money? So I saw how the filters I was getting them were ineffective, (also, my bad, I didn't know about the nitrogen cycle), and upon taking them apart I realized, 'How much am I paying for this sh*t?'
So getting on the net, I am so appreciative of all the youtube video how-tos on how to build your own filter. Container, filter media, and powerhead.
Videos like these gave me ideas and inspired me:
So now I'm going to try to make a solar powered filter for the Zoomed Turtle Tub I got for them. Now they can be out in the bright, natural sunshine, and I can save electricity costs and not have to get the UVA and UVB bulbs for them. And as they get used to the natural environment with natural heating, I don't have to worry about heating their tank either. Yes, I'm a cheapskate, I know it. But I am learning a ton from taking care of them.
And for my turtles, why waste money? So I saw how the filters I was getting them were ineffective, (also, my bad, I didn't know about the nitrogen cycle), and upon taking them apart I realized, 'How much am I paying for this sh*t?'
So getting on the net, I am so appreciative of all the youtube video how-tos on how to build your own filter. Container, filter media, and powerhead.
Videos like these gave me ideas and inspired me:
So now I'm going to try to make a solar powered filter for the Zoomed Turtle Tub I got for them. Now they can be out in the bright, natural sunshine, and I can save electricity costs and not have to get the UVA and UVB bulbs for them. And as they get used to the natural environment with natural heating, I don't have to worry about heating their tank either. Yes, I'm a cheapskate, I know it. But I am learning a ton from taking care of them.
Sunday, April 17, 2011
Perception or Character
Where people see the devil, I see a cute little bunny.
When people see a cute bunny, I see the potential energy of primitive instinct that can be unleashed with very violent consequences. The results would then be dubbed 'evil incarnate' through society's point of view.
For the first, are people willfully seeing their own created symbol that represents their fears and sins. Something intangible made tangible with a singular, easily comprehensible image. Am I seeing something harmless a very blatant indication of my own delusion, to make light of horror? Or is it just my very nature that I don't view things the way everyone else views, or is raised to view them. Illusion or delusion, it's a toss up.
And the latter? A true tangible animal deemed 'cute' by popular consensus and agreed upon belief. But rabbits, like all animals, are real without images and have no need of labels. Their very nature defies what humans want them to be. A hormonal teenage ape will rip the face of anyone, even a friend, when it wants to. A rabbit, through resentment from being caged up, denied allowing it to live its true nature, (being locked up at night and forced to come out at play during the day), will become bad tempered, and worse, lash out. They have teeth and claws for a reason, and not just defense. Our primitive natures are savage. We cannot force civilization, or idea of civilization on animals because that is uncivilized. Isn't that what being inhuman is? To force something else to obey and live under another's control against his or her will? We can do it with a smile or a pat on its head but it does not change the fact that we want to force it to be what we want it to be. Live how we think it should live.
We do it to each other, to ourselves. But as humans, to live in a civilized society we must force control. We must force ourselves to control our baser natures. But when using 'civilization' as an excuse to exercise our baser natures in the guise of 'educating' or 'making their lives better', we are in essence believing we can be kings and gods. We have a tenuous control over the animal kingdom and each other. With wars and technology we have proven superiority in might, but take all that away, put a man in a ring with a lion and the lion will surely win. Our primitive natural weapons, nails and teeth, are no match for the finely evolved claws and teeth of true predators.
WIth a little gun that shoots tiny balls there are those who exercise this delusion of superiority over the mightiest of creatures. They cut off the heads and mount them on walls as 'trophies'. Reminders of one's delusion. Props that are always there to support the illusion and people are content to live in it.
And in writing this I am aware of my own hypocrisy. Others do the killing, but I, myself, partake in the aftermath. It may not hang on my wall, but the flesh rests in my stomach. But I am not one for an 'honor killing'. I don't want those kinds of trophies. Recognition of talents by my peers and those whose talents have propelled them to positions of fame and influence, I admit to that guilty desire. Articles hearlding my written and creative works. People who admire and have been inspired by my work, I admit, adulation is what I desire as my trophies. Well, in true honesty, recognition. But adulation comes with recognition, but I don't want devout followers or swooning fans. It's a strange thing. I don't want to be a hero that is made only to be torn down. The heroes in histories stand up and are heroes because they choose to be, not because others made them to be. Those are true heroes to me. Many have no names. Their actions will never live on in story and song. Do all we do amount to nothing but to gratify our own sense of self-worth? Ghandi said it. A Linkin Park song is titled it. Nothing really matters.
The sun rises every day. It is not unique, but it is neccessary. That's what makes it special. A different kind of special from unique. Something unique is coveted if it is the only one of its kind left. Another kind of special, things that happen every day, but propogates life. Progpagates advancement. Maybe a skill that started off as unique and is now necessary. We see it in medicine, technology, in the little things we do as human beings. But those things are largely ignored. But those things are also the most fondly remembered. It could be a parent getting up every day to make their child lunch before rushing the child to school and getting to work. It could be the child who remembers the little things the parents did and its those little lessons that makes the child a better parent.
In life, do we really matter? In the grand scheme of things, the world, the universe, do we matter?
In general, no. But I want to live a good heroes life. And maybe with a bit of delusion thrown in for my self-worth. What I do matters to me. How I affect others matters to me. What I try to remember when I write, but I don't always do, "show, don't tell". Even having bad people in my life, they examples of what I don't want to be. I would like to believe that my life is about the journey. It is about setting goals. If it doesn't matter to the world or the universe, it matters to me. I give my life purpose. I would like to feel like, because I do, what others say or think of me does not matter. It's becoming a hero, (if that's the term), because I choose to be.
I've hated labels and stigmas for a long time. I told myself to never dismiss anything else I am giving myself permission to be ignorant. People relate what they learn to what they already know, it makes things easier to comprehend. But humans also limit what they know so they can dismiss what they don't know. If something doesn't mesh with what they currently believe, they give themselves the right to look down on it, ignore it, and be satisfied with themselves and their actions.
But the more you learn then there is an increasing amount of potential to what you can learn. And there is a greater awareness of how much you don't know. There is a comfort in staying ignorant. A nice, safe, 'I don't know'. Is it ture if you fear corruption you fear life? But that's like saying life is about corruption. Looking at the world throughout history, is life corrupt because we have made it corrupt? Is life corrupt because we see it as corrupt? As the only way it can be? The idealist says no. But ideals and the willingness to fight for them are often two separate, and debateable things. If you're not apart of the solution, you're apart of the problem. What if the problem and solution are so interconnected, there is no way to start in figuring either out. Who has the arrogance to have the right to definte the ultimate solution? Who has the audacity to blame one for the problem? Blame is easy. To stop wasting time and do something about an issue is the most logical yet least practiced first step to a solution. And we are all guilty of it.
So where do things go from here? In the primitive way I wonder if I would be a farmer or a hunter? I would say, it would be reasonable to be both. People are never entirely good or evil. A man who destroys another life may be doing so to provide for another life, not just his own. But I would not readily sacrifice my life because someone else deems it is not as 'important' as another's, in his perspective. This is an example of what others see as negative but I see as positive. Well, as a necessity. Selfishness. While it is preached we should be selfless, it is seldom practiced. We are selfish because it is our inner nature to survive. But there is a limit to selfishness. Is Confuscious right? Nothing in excess? (The few things I agree with Confuscious on).
Sheryl Crowe sang, 'It's not getting what you want, it's wanting what you've got.'
I do want more, but not necessarily in material things. It would be great to never worry about money to buy a better computer and update my anti-virus programs. To never worry about affording food and shelter. I am also acutely aware that I am so lucky to have those things. But I don't want my own yacht or personal plane. To be honest, those things are a pain and the maintenance, taxes, and theft are just things I would be annoyed to be worried about. I want to be able to always keep writing and keep creating. To be always able to afford notebooks, pens, paper, pencils, electricity, a good home, the necessities in life and the things I need to accomplish possible. Wealth is safety and protection. There will always be those who deem that their lives are more important and will destroy others so their lives will be a little richer. I want to be able to protect myself from that. Through knowledge, tact and experience. I don't look for the fights, but as long as I know how to fight I will not live with that kind of fear.
But back to 'enough'. Sufficient, content -- I don't think it is good to be content in what I try to accomplish. Striving to always be better, to invent, create, design, to know, those things are a part of humanity. A great part, I believe. If that's what it means to eat the apple, (or pomegrenate as I think the story was derived from the Hades and Persephone story), I would take the apple. And I believe greatly that the apple wasn't the end all. Hope is about wisdom. Our knowledge needs to be tempered by experience. Our greatest works can be turned to travesties by our own hands. Jurassic Park, 'We're so eager to see if we could we never stop think if we should.'
Even those things the world thinks is evil are necessities. Wars and sickness bring out the best and worst in humanity. They are caused by our mistakes, and they also force us to face those mistakes. Our actions through those times, right or wrong, depending on how history is seen, is how humans bungle through life. Better or worse for it, we still keep moving forward. No matter how bad we bungle through it, we still advance because of it.
And in those advancements, what now? I have enough in terms of being able to live day to day. I am lucky because I had parents who cared and provided so I could be well off enough to advance. Others don't have that privilege. It is a hard thing to hate someone for what he or she has. But when someone has the basic necessities and you don't, sometimes you wonder, why them and not me? Why do they get to live in luxury while I suffer?
Many people have to earn their basic necessities day after day. I'm not just talking about a regular job which people often hate and grumble and grip about. When the land is too dry, seeds don't exist, and there are no tools to help, what can you do? Or if you have no home and no money and barely clothes on your back, what else can you do but live a life society deems as wrong? I can only imagine. I would never want to live in that life. So how can society, the world, function in a state where it deems actions are wrong and yet does nothing to attack the root of the problem?
Someone once lectured me about China. It is viewed as evil in many respects. But, he told me, when a person is worried if the children will have food the next day, nothing else in life matters. It's like what I was saying before. In desperate times, selfishness is what causes one person to deem some lives more important than others. But let's face it, even in not desperate times this is true. Then there is a selfishness that comes from envy. Who wouldn't want to be in a higher position so they wouldn't have to suffer?
And there is the other perspective. Why should someone give up a luxuries that were earned to others who have none, or worse, feel they are entitled because they have none?
Entitlement is a product of judgement. Having more than others and deciding if and how to help others with that 'more' is also personal choice.
This is where compassion and knowledge come in. I believe very much in helping Japan. No, they are not a third world country, but the country has been devastated by one of the worst natural disasters seen in a long time. I can't make that choice for other people, but I want to help. The biggest reason is, I know that money will not be squandered. They have the spirit, the culture, the drive, the focus, and the knowhow to rebuild. I think and hope they will remember the kindness from the world and they will repay it in the future. They don't like debts. An old man stranded in the radioactive zone even offered to pay the Associated press reporters for food even though they would have gladly given it to him for free.
They don't like charity, (they're a non-tipping culture), but in this most desperate of times they have accepted charity. That means times are far worse than anyone on the outside would ever imagine possible. The workers in the nuclear power plants, the special defense forces pushing harder than ever to find survivors and help those in need, there is no theft or looting, people have accepted the crisis has happened and are doing their best, for themselves and each other. How can I not look at all of their efforts with admiration? They show by example without preaching. I know I may be seeing it with rose-colored glasses, there are problems and issues that only those on the inside know, but I can't help the overall picture.
The help they receive will not be squandered. People have opened up their homes to strangers who have none. The first time I heard Hachiko's story I cried. And the video of the dog who would not leave his companion was epic. Why are such acts of compassion not accepted universally, but are seen as astonishing?
Maybe they need to be. Maybe there is a complacency when people are expected to act courteously when they really don't want to. When you are truly good, without expectation of award or praise, you are a true hero. So a part of me does desire that. To be a hero because you want to be, not because others expect you to be or make you up to be. Is it delusional of me to have that ideal? History will not remember your name or sing your praises. But you inspire others to do better, to be better. So the delusional idealist in me wins out. Especially when there are shows of that being possible. That we as human beings can be capable of that.
There is no religion or law that can preach to people what is right and truly believe that is the way. That is not true compassion if one fears a punishment in the afterlife. That's like a child only sharing his toys or else his mom will spank him. Doing good only because you are forced to, that's not a good deed. That may be being a good citizen, but it is no representation of the true character within.
When people see a cute bunny, I see the potential energy of primitive instinct that can be unleashed with very violent consequences. The results would then be dubbed 'evil incarnate' through society's point of view.
For the first, are people willfully seeing their own created symbol that represents their fears and sins. Something intangible made tangible with a singular, easily comprehensible image. Am I seeing something harmless a very blatant indication of my own delusion, to make light of horror? Or is it just my very nature that I don't view things the way everyone else views, or is raised to view them. Illusion or delusion, it's a toss up.
And the latter? A true tangible animal deemed 'cute' by popular consensus and agreed upon belief. But rabbits, like all animals, are real without images and have no need of labels. Their very nature defies what humans want them to be. A hormonal teenage ape will rip the face of anyone, even a friend, when it wants to. A rabbit, through resentment from being caged up, denied allowing it to live its true nature, (being locked up at night and forced to come out at play during the day), will become bad tempered, and worse, lash out. They have teeth and claws for a reason, and not just defense. Our primitive natures are savage. We cannot force civilization, or idea of civilization on animals because that is uncivilized. Isn't that what being inhuman is? To force something else to obey and live under another's control against his or her will? We can do it with a smile or a pat on its head but it does not change the fact that we want to force it to be what we want it to be. Live how we think it should live.
We do it to each other, to ourselves. But as humans, to live in a civilized society we must force control. We must force ourselves to control our baser natures. But when using 'civilization' as an excuse to exercise our baser natures in the guise of 'educating' or 'making their lives better', we are in essence believing we can be kings and gods. We have a tenuous control over the animal kingdom and each other. With wars and technology we have proven superiority in might, but take all that away, put a man in a ring with a lion and the lion will surely win. Our primitive natural weapons, nails and teeth, are no match for the finely evolved claws and teeth of true predators.
WIth a little gun that shoots tiny balls there are those who exercise this delusion of superiority over the mightiest of creatures. They cut off the heads and mount them on walls as 'trophies'. Reminders of one's delusion. Props that are always there to support the illusion and people are content to live in it.
And in writing this I am aware of my own hypocrisy. Others do the killing, but I, myself, partake in the aftermath. It may not hang on my wall, but the flesh rests in my stomach. But I am not one for an 'honor killing'. I don't want those kinds of trophies. Recognition of talents by my peers and those whose talents have propelled them to positions of fame and influence, I admit to that guilty desire. Articles hearlding my written and creative works. People who admire and have been inspired by my work, I admit, adulation is what I desire as my trophies. Well, in true honesty, recognition. But adulation comes with recognition, but I don't want devout followers or swooning fans. It's a strange thing. I don't want to be a hero that is made only to be torn down. The heroes in histories stand up and are heroes because they choose to be, not because others made them to be. Those are true heroes to me. Many have no names. Their actions will never live on in story and song. Do all we do amount to nothing but to gratify our own sense of self-worth? Ghandi said it. A Linkin Park song is titled it. Nothing really matters.
The sun rises every day. It is not unique, but it is neccessary. That's what makes it special. A different kind of special from unique. Something unique is coveted if it is the only one of its kind left. Another kind of special, things that happen every day, but propogates life. Progpagates advancement. Maybe a skill that started off as unique and is now necessary. We see it in medicine, technology, in the little things we do as human beings. But those things are largely ignored. But those things are also the most fondly remembered. It could be a parent getting up every day to make their child lunch before rushing the child to school and getting to work. It could be the child who remembers the little things the parents did and its those little lessons that makes the child a better parent.
In life, do we really matter? In the grand scheme of things, the world, the universe, do we matter?
In general, no. But I want to live a good heroes life. And maybe with a bit of delusion thrown in for my self-worth. What I do matters to me. How I affect others matters to me. What I try to remember when I write, but I don't always do, "show, don't tell". Even having bad people in my life, they examples of what I don't want to be. I would like to believe that my life is about the journey. It is about setting goals. If it doesn't matter to the world or the universe, it matters to me. I give my life purpose. I would like to feel like, because I do, what others say or think of me does not matter. It's becoming a hero, (if that's the term), because I choose to be.
I've hated labels and stigmas for a long time. I told myself to never dismiss anything else I am giving myself permission to be ignorant. People relate what they learn to what they already know, it makes things easier to comprehend. But humans also limit what they know so they can dismiss what they don't know. If something doesn't mesh with what they currently believe, they give themselves the right to look down on it, ignore it, and be satisfied with themselves and their actions.
But the more you learn then there is an increasing amount of potential to what you can learn. And there is a greater awareness of how much you don't know. There is a comfort in staying ignorant. A nice, safe, 'I don't know'. Is it ture if you fear corruption you fear life? But that's like saying life is about corruption. Looking at the world throughout history, is life corrupt because we have made it corrupt? Is life corrupt because we see it as corrupt? As the only way it can be? The idealist says no. But ideals and the willingness to fight for them are often two separate, and debateable things. If you're not apart of the solution, you're apart of the problem. What if the problem and solution are so interconnected, there is no way to start in figuring either out. Who has the arrogance to have the right to definte the ultimate solution? Who has the audacity to blame one for the problem? Blame is easy. To stop wasting time and do something about an issue is the most logical yet least practiced first step to a solution. And we are all guilty of it.
So where do things go from here? In the primitive way I wonder if I would be a farmer or a hunter? I would say, it would be reasonable to be both. People are never entirely good or evil. A man who destroys another life may be doing so to provide for another life, not just his own. But I would not readily sacrifice my life because someone else deems it is not as 'important' as another's, in his perspective. This is an example of what others see as negative but I see as positive. Well, as a necessity. Selfishness. While it is preached we should be selfless, it is seldom practiced. We are selfish because it is our inner nature to survive. But there is a limit to selfishness. Is Confuscious right? Nothing in excess? (The few things I agree with Confuscious on).
Sheryl Crowe sang, 'It's not getting what you want, it's wanting what you've got.'
I do want more, but not necessarily in material things. It would be great to never worry about money to buy a better computer and update my anti-virus programs. To never worry about affording food and shelter. I am also acutely aware that I am so lucky to have those things. But I don't want my own yacht or personal plane. To be honest, those things are a pain and the maintenance, taxes, and theft are just things I would be annoyed to be worried about. I want to be able to always keep writing and keep creating. To be always able to afford notebooks, pens, paper, pencils, electricity, a good home, the necessities in life and the things I need to accomplish possible. Wealth is safety and protection. There will always be those who deem that their lives are more important and will destroy others so their lives will be a little richer. I want to be able to protect myself from that. Through knowledge, tact and experience. I don't look for the fights, but as long as I know how to fight I will not live with that kind of fear.
But back to 'enough'. Sufficient, content -- I don't think it is good to be content in what I try to accomplish. Striving to always be better, to invent, create, design, to know, those things are a part of humanity. A great part, I believe. If that's what it means to eat the apple, (or pomegrenate as I think the story was derived from the Hades and Persephone story), I would take the apple. And I believe greatly that the apple wasn't the end all. Hope is about wisdom. Our knowledge needs to be tempered by experience. Our greatest works can be turned to travesties by our own hands. Jurassic Park, 'We're so eager to see if we could we never stop think if we should.'
Even those things the world thinks is evil are necessities. Wars and sickness bring out the best and worst in humanity. They are caused by our mistakes, and they also force us to face those mistakes. Our actions through those times, right or wrong, depending on how history is seen, is how humans bungle through life. Better or worse for it, we still keep moving forward. No matter how bad we bungle through it, we still advance because of it.
And in those advancements, what now? I have enough in terms of being able to live day to day. I am lucky because I had parents who cared and provided so I could be well off enough to advance. Others don't have that privilege. It is a hard thing to hate someone for what he or she has. But when someone has the basic necessities and you don't, sometimes you wonder, why them and not me? Why do they get to live in luxury while I suffer?
Many people have to earn their basic necessities day after day. I'm not just talking about a regular job which people often hate and grumble and grip about. When the land is too dry, seeds don't exist, and there are no tools to help, what can you do? Or if you have no home and no money and barely clothes on your back, what else can you do but live a life society deems as wrong? I can only imagine. I would never want to live in that life. So how can society, the world, function in a state where it deems actions are wrong and yet does nothing to attack the root of the problem?
Someone once lectured me about China. It is viewed as evil in many respects. But, he told me, when a person is worried if the children will have food the next day, nothing else in life matters. It's like what I was saying before. In desperate times, selfishness is what causes one person to deem some lives more important than others. But let's face it, even in not desperate times this is true. Then there is a selfishness that comes from envy. Who wouldn't want to be in a higher position so they wouldn't have to suffer?
And there is the other perspective. Why should someone give up a luxuries that were earned to others who have none, or worse, feel they are entitled because they have none?
Entitlement is a product of judgement. Having more than others and deciding if and how to help others with that 'more' is also personal choice.
This is where compassion and knowledge come in. I believe very much in helping Japan. No, they are not a third world country, but the country has been devastated by one of the worst natural disasters seen in a long time. I can't make that choice for other people, but I want to help. The biggest reason is, I know that money will not be squandered. They have the spirit, the culture, the drive, the focus, and the knowhow to rebuild. I think and hope they will remember the kindness from the world and they will repay it in the future. They don't like debts. An old man stranded in the radioactive zone even offered to pay the Associated press reporters for food even though they would have gladly given it to him for free.
They don't like charity, (they're a non-tipping culture), but in this most desperate of times they have accepted charity. That means times are far worse than anyone on the outside would ever imagine possible. The workers in the nuclear power plants, the special defense forces pushing harder than ever to find survivors and help those in need, there is no theft or looting, people have accepted the crisis has happened and are doing their best, for themselves and each other. How can I not look at all of their efforts with admiration? They show by example without preaching. I know I may be seeing it with rose-colored glasses, there are problems and issues that only those on the inside know, but I can't help the overall picture.
The help they receive will not be squandered. People have opened up their homes to strangers who have none. The first time I heard Hachiko's story I cried. And the video of the dog who would not leave his companion was epic. Why are such acts of compassion not accepted universally, but are seen as astonishing?
Maybe they need to be. Maybe there is a complacency when people are expected to act courteously when they really don't want to. When you are truly good, without expectation of award or praise, you are a true hero. So a part of me does desire that. To be a hero because you want to be, not because others expect you to be or make you up to be. Is it delusional of me to have that ideal? History will not remember your name or sing your praises. But you inspire others to do better, to be better. So the delusional idealist in me wins out. Especially when there are shows of that being possible. That we as human beings can be capable of that.
There is no religion or law that can preach to people what is right and truly believe that is the way. That is not true compassion if one fears a punishment in the afterlife. That's like a child only sharing his toys or else his mom will spank him. Doing good only because you are forced to, that's not a good deed. That may be being a good citizen, but it is no representation of the true character within.
as long as there is demand, a product will be sold. Be it illegal drugs, fur taken through cruelty, and drug-like junkfoods. to impose a punishment for indulging in such things will only do so much. as human beings, do we have the self-control to be able to resist? or for greed people will always manipulate another's self-control for their own gain? on a deeper level, this is a representation of a culmination of battle of control. and the dark side is winning.
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Why Am I Binge Posting?
Because I've been lazy. It's so much easier just to press the facebook icon for so many things, articles, videos ...
But the original reason why I started a blog was to put a copy of articles and info where I can find it. Articles disappear, webpages dissipate, the dreaded 'Error, page not found message!' is really annoying right when I need the info from an article I read last week, month, a year, 3 years, (yes, I have a very good memory. Annoys the hell out of my mother), ago.
So I'm going through some of my facebook stuff and putting the info here. My Facebook page is private and by their policies, whatever we put on their belongs to them. I'd rather have my retorts, prose poetry, and little idiosyncrises really private rather than reported to the CIA.
But the original reason why I started a blog was to put a copy of articles and info where I can find it. Articles disappear, webpages dissipate, the dreaded 'Error, page not found message!' is really annoying right when I need the info from an article I read last week, month, a year, 3 years, (yes, I have a very good memory. Annoys the hell out of my mother), ago.
So I'm going through some of my facebook stuff and putting the info here. My Facebook page is private and by their policies, whatever we put on their belongs to them. I'd rather have my retorts, prose poetry, and little idiosyncrises really private rather than reported to the CIA.
Simple Ways to Cut 500 Calories
by Hollie C. Corbett at fitbie
http://fitbie.msn.com/lose-weight/tips/simple-ways-cut-500-calories?gt1=50002
At Breakfast
Make a trade. Swap your bagel for an English muffin to slash 220 calories, a glass of whole milk for skim to save 70 calories, and a three-egg omelet for one egg and two egg whites, or pork sausage for turkey sausage to cut about 125 calories each.
Measure portions. “It’s so easy to eat a whole cup of cereal rather than a half-cup serving,” says Susan Kleiner, RD, PhD, co-author of The Good Mood Diet and The Power Food Nutrition Plan. “Simply measuring out one serving can save you up to 200 calories.” Keep in mind that a cup of granola can have up to 600 calories, while a cup of high-fiber cereal has only about 120.
At Lunch
Move on your lunch hour. “A brisk 15-minute walk burns about 100 calories, and it gives you less time to eat,” says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. Walk during your lunch for five days and burn 500 extra calories. Or try wearing a pedometer to measure out 10,000 steps a day, or about 5 miles—you’ll automatically burn 500 calories without even hitting the gym.
Order wisely. Swap hummus or mustard for mayo, and a roll for sliced bread on your sandwich, and cut about 200 calories. Opt for a salad instead of fries to save another 300 calories for a total of 500 saved.
Chew your food. An easy way to slash calories is to slow down when you eat. Women who chewed at least 20 times before swallowing ate up to 70 calories less at mealtime, according to the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition. Since it takes 20 to 30 minutes for your body to register that you are full, researchers believe eating more slowly allows you to get to the point where you feel satiated on fewer calories than if you’re shoveling it in.
At Dinner
Downsize your plates. Rather than depriving yourself of food to drop pounds, simply use smaller plates. “People eat as much as is on their dish rather than the amount that their body actually needs,” says Jacob Teitelbaum, MD, author of Beat Sugar Addiction Now! “If you shrink the size of your dishes by a quarter, such as going from a 12-inch plate to a 9-inch plate, you’ll cut 500 calories without feeling deprived.” The research backs it up: People serving themselves ice cream in larger bowls ate 31 percent more than their counterparts eating from smaller bowls—and both groups reported feeling full, according to the American Journal of Preventative Medicine.
Wait to have seconds. Once you’ve downsized to smaller plates, Dr. Teitelbaum recommends giving yourself permission to eat as much as you want, but waiting 20 to 30 minutes to have a second helping. “You almost never go back because you’ve given your body time to register that you’re feeling full, so you easily save hundreds of calories.” Even if you do opt for seconds, you’re likely to get a smaller helping because hunger hormones won’t be driving your appetite.
Slim your sides. Instead of dipping chips in fat-packed sour cream, try serving baked tortilla chips or whole wheat pita wedges with low-fat refried beans and chunky salsa. It’s a tasty way to sneak in an extra serving of veggies and cut 109 calories. Or trade a side of traditional potato salad for sliced tomatoes, cucumbers, and onions tossed with fat-free Italian dressing to cut 258 calories.
Eating Dessert
Make over your sweets. You won’t miss belt-busting peach cobbler or banana splits if you have other good-for-you options to choose from. Save up to 400 calories by making grilled fruit kebabs: Slice one peach and one small banana into quarters, thread four pieces fruit each onto two skewers, and brush with one tbsp honey each. Grill each side for about 4 minutes, or until flesh is tender but still firm. Sprinkle on cinnamon. Or, if you want to have your cake, cut a thin slice of pound cake, layer on berries and top with light whipped cream for a decadent-tasting dessert for less than 150 calories.
Skip the oil. Replace oil for applesauce when baking to slim down. “Two tablespoons of oil is about 200 calories, while 4 tablespoons of applesauce is only 40—you have to double the applesauce to oil ratio in recipes,” says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. Make the switch and save 160 calories without sacrificing flavor, and top your treat with a dollop of light whipped cream instead of premium vanilla ice cream to save another 220 calories.
Dining Out
Leave something on your plate. Restaurant dishes are up to 250 percent larger than a normal portion size, so simply leaving a quarter of the meal on your plate can save up to 500 calories. Leaving a few bites of any potato or noodle dish cuts up to 100 calories alone because they almost always have added butter, oils or other fats, says Susan Kleiner, RD, PhD, co-author of The Good Mood Diet. And skip the extras, such as the bread basket, to keep from breaking your calorie bank. Or, if you’re at a Mexican restaurant, forgo the tortilla chips—they can equal more calories than your entire meal.
Know before you go. Before you head to a chain restaurant, check out the nutrition information on its web site – diners who saw nutrition information before selecting their meals ate an average of 52 fewer calories, according to the American Journal of Public Health. Moreover, you’ll be able to make smarter meal choices. Instead of having Chili’s Steak and Portobello Fajitas for 1130 calories, you can choose Chili’s Classic Chicken Fajitas for just 360 calories—a savings of almost 800!
At the Office
Take a stand. “You can burn up to an extra 500 calories a day without doing a lot of activity simply by standing rather than sitting,” says John Timmerman, a certified personal trainer at Trillium Fitness in Syracuse, New York. “It can make the difference between burning 120 calories an hour versus 60 calories.” If you can’t get away from your desk, try standing to make a phone call or read a report. Even shutting your office door to squeeze in 5 minutes of pushups or jumping jacks can burn another 50 calories.
Have a ball. “Trading your desk chair for a stability ball helps you burn extra calories because you’re forced to use your core muscles to stay stable,” says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. “You could burn up to 350 extra calories over an eight-hour workday while helping to tone your stomach and boost circulation.”
Drink up. It’s no secret that swapping soda for water can save you hundreds of calories—about 300 a day if you drink two cans. But drinking 20 to 60 ounces of water daily might also help boost your metabolism so you burn even more calories, says Greta Blackburn, founder of FitCamps and co-author of the new book, The Immortality Edge. “If you’re not getting enough water, your kidneys turn to your liver for help, which takes away from your fat-burning ability and slows metabolism.” To make water more appealing, try adding sliced cucumbers, or low-calorie flavor packets that offer fizz and a shot of vitamins, such as the new orange-flavored eBoost.
Watching TV
Don’t eat and watch. “People who snack in front of the television consume an average of 288 extra calories a day because they’re eating mindlessly,” says Dr. Teitelbaum. If you want to snack, turn off the TV, serve yourself on a dish, and really pay attention to what you’re putting in your mouth to slash calories.
Try commercial cardio. “Doing some kind of cardio, such as jumping rope or jogging in place, burns about 10 calories a minute,” says says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. “If you watch an hour of TV a night and add cardio moves during the 10 commercial breaks that typically air, you could blast up to 300 extra calories without missing your favorite shows.” Adding “commercial cardio” and nixing mindless snacking cuts more than 500 calories.
On a Saturday
Sleep in. “Studies show people who get less than 6 hours of sleep eat up to 300 calories more during the day because a lack of sleep triggers the production of the hunger hormone, grehlin,” says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. Each extra hour of sleep could save you 100 calories. So don’t set your alarm on Saturday, and if you snooze, you lose.
Clean house. Spend 2 hours getting organized by cleaning your garage or vacuuming and dusting the house to slash about 408 calories. Wear extra layers and switch the hands you use to sweat even more.
Get foot loose. Go out with your friend and move to some live music, or just blast your favorite tunes and dance around your house. Rocking out like this for an hour torches 445 calories—and you’ll be having fun so it won’t feel like exercise.
Go for a ride. Biking is great impact-free cardio—plus you have to engage your core muscles to stay balanced. One hour of biking at an easy pace blasts 272 calories—pedal just twice a week, and that’s more than 6 pounds dropped in a year. To find a bike trail near you, check out traillink.com.
Run some errands. Spend an afternoon food shopping and unloading groceries to burn close to 500 calories. Cook dinner to burn 136 more.
During Your Workout
Switch it up. You can burn up to an additional 250 calories in a half-hour, or 500 in an hour, by incorporating intervals versus exercising at the same pace, says Nolan. Whether you’re swimming laps, running, riding a stationary bike, or using the treadmill, you can increase the calorie burn by picking up the pace to the point where you are so out of breath that you can’t even talk for 30 seconds, then slow down for one and half minutes to recover. “You know you’re doing the 30-second pushes right when you’re grunting or you want to scream,” says Blackburn. Start with a 5-minute warm up, repeat these 30-second intervals eight times, and then recover for 10 minutes.
Take 15. “Even if you’re really pressed for time, you can usually find 15 minutes in your day to exercise,” says Nolan. For the days when you don’t have time to spare, try doing three 5-minute circuits using free weights. “The key is to get your heart rate up while using as many muscle groups as possible to torch up to 250 calories in just 15 minutes.” If you can find two 15-minute chunks in your day to do these moves, you can blast up to 500 calories. Do three sets of this circuit:
90 Seconds: Squat with a bicep curl, and stand to go straight into an overhead shoulder press. Repeat. 90 Seconds: Lunge forward with right leg while raising weights out to side to shoulder level, hold for one second, bring leg back and arms down to return to starting position. Alternate legs and repeat. 120 Seconds: Do a row while standing on right leg to engage your core muscles, repeat for one minute then switch to left leg..
http://fitbie.msn.com/lose-weight/tips/simple-ways-cut-500-calories?gt1=50002
At Breakfast
Make a trade. Swap your bagel for an English muffin to slash 220 calories, a glass of whole milk for skim to save 70 calories, and a three-egg omelet for one egg and two egg whites, or pork sausage for turkey sausage to cut about 125 calories each.
Measure portions. “It’s so easy to eat a whole cup of cereal rather than a half-cup serving,” says Susan Kleiner, RD, PhD, co-author of The Good Mood Diet and The Power Food Nutrition Plan. “Simply measuring out one serving can save you up to 200 calories.” Keep in mind that a cup of granola can have up to 600 calories, while a cup of high-fiber cereal has only about 120.
At Lunch
Move on your lunch hour. “A brisk 15-minute walk burns about 100 calories, and it gives you less time to eat,” says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. Walk during your lunch for five days and burn 500 extra calories. Or try wearing a pedometer to measure out 10,000 steps a day, or about 5 miles—you’ll automatically burn 500 calories without even hitting the gym.
Order wisely. Swap hummus or mustard for mayo, and a roll for sliced bread on your sandwich, and cut about 200 calories. Opt for a salad instead of fries to save another 300 calories for a total of 500 saved.
Chew your food. An easy way to slash calories is to slow down when you eat. Women who chewed at least 20 times before swallowing ate up to 70 calories less at mealtime, according to the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition. Since it takes 20 to 30 minutes for your body to register that you are full, researchers believe eating more slowly allows you to get to the point where you feel satiated on fewer calories than if you’re shoveling it in.
At Dinner
Downsize your plates. Rather than depriving yourself of food to drop pounds, simply use smaller plates. “People eat as much as is on their dish rather than the amount that their body actually needs,” says Jacob Teitelbaum, MD, author of Beat Sugar Addiction Now! “If you shrink the size of your dishes by a quarter, such as going from a 12-inch plate to a 9-inch plate, you’ll cut 500 calories without feeling deprived.” The research backs it up: People serving themselves ice cream in larger bowls ate 31 percent more than their counterparts eating from smaller bowls—and both groups reported feeling full, according to the American Journal of Preventative Medicine.
Wait to have seconds. Once you’ve downsized to smaller plates, Dr. Teitelbaum recommends giving yourself permission to eat as much as you want, but waiting 20 to 30 minutes to have a second helping. “You almost never go back because you’ve given your body time to register that you’re feeling full, so you easily save hundreds of calories.” Even if you do opt for seconds, you’re likely to get a smaller helping because hunger hormones won’t be driving your appetite.
Slim your sides. Instead of dipping chips in fat-packed sour cream, try serving baked tortilla chips or whole wheat pita wedges with low-fat refried beans and chunky salsa. It’s a tasty way to sneak in an extra serving of veggies and cut 109 calories. Or trade a side of traditional potato salad for sliced tomatoes, cucumbers, and onions tossed with fat-free Italian dressing to cut 258 calories.
Eating Dessert
Make over your sweets. You won’t miss belt-busting peach cobbler or banana splits if you have other good-for-you options to choose from. Save up to 400 calories by making grilled fruit kebabs: Slice one peach and one small banana into quarters, thread four pieces fruit each onto two skewers, and brush with one tbsp honey each. Grill each side for about 4 minutes, or until flesh is tender but still firm. Sprinkle on cinnamon. Or, if you want to have your cake, cut a thin slice of pound cake, layer on berries and top with light whipped cream for a decadent-tasting dessert for less than 150 calories.
Skip the oil. Replace oil for applesauce when baking to slim down. “Two tablespoons of oil is about 200 calories, while 4 tablespoons of applesauce is only 40—you have to double the applesauce to oil ratio in recipes,” says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. Make the switch and save 160 calories without sacrificing flavor, and top your treat with a dollop of light whipped cream instead of premium vanilla ice cream to save another 220 calories.
Dining Out
Leave something on your plate. Restaurant dishes are up to 250 percent larger than a normal portion size, so simply leaving a quarter of the meal on your plate can save up to 500 calories. Leaving a few bites of any potato or noodle dish cuts up to 100 calories alone because they almost always have added butter, oils or other fats, says Susan Kleiner, RD, PhD, co-author of The Good Mood Diet. And skip the extras, such as the bread basket, to keep from breaking your calorie bank. Or, if you’re at a Mexican restaurant, forgo the tortilla chips—they can equal more calories than your entire meal.
Know before you go. Before you head to a chain restaurant, check out the nutrition information on its web site – diners who saw nutrition information before selecting their meals ate an average of 52 fewer calories, according to the American Journal of Public Health. Moreover, you’ll be able to make smarter meal choices. Instead of having Chili’s Steak and Portobello Fajitas for 1130 calories, you can choose Chili’s Classic Chicken Fajitas for just 360 calories—a savings of almost 800!
At the Office
Take a stand. “You can burn up to an extra 500 calories a day without doing a lot of activity simply by standing rather than sitting,” says John Timmerman, a certified personal trainer at Trillium Fitness in Syracuse, New York. “It can make the difference between burning 120 calories an hour versus 60 calories.” If you can’t get away from your desk, try standing to make a phone call or read a report. Even shutting your office door to squeeze in 5 minutes of pushups or jumping jacks can burn another 50 calories.
Have a ball. “Trading your desk chair for a stability ball helps you burn extra calories because you’re forced to use your core muscles to stay stable,” says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. “You could burn up to 350 extra calories over an eight-hour workday while helping to tone your stomach and boost circulation.”
Drink up. It’s no secret that swapping soda for water can save you hundreds of calories—about 300 a day if you drink two cans. But drinking 20 to 60 ounces of water daily might also help boost your metabolism so you burn even more calories, says Greta Blackburn, founder of FitCamps and co-author of the new book, The Immortality Edge. “If you’re not getting enough water, your kidneys turn to your liver for help, which takes away from your fat-burning ability and slows metabolism.” To make water more appealing, try adding sliced cucumbers, or low-calorie flavor packets that offer fizz and a shot of vitamins, such as the new orange-flavored eBoost.
Watching TV
Don’t eat and watch. “People who snack in front of the television consume an average of 288 extra calories a day because they’re eating mindlessly,” says Dr. Teitelbaum. If you want to snack, turn off the TV, serve yourself on a dish, and really pay attention to what you’re putting in your mouth to slash calories.
Try commercial cardio. “Doing some kind of cardio, such as jumping rope or jogging in place, burns about 10 calories a minute,” says says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. “If you watch an hour of TV a night and add cardio moves during the 10 commercial breaks that typically air, you could blast up to 300 extra calories without missing your favorite shows.” Adding “commercial cardio” and nixing mindless snacking cuts more than 500 calories.
On a Saturday
Sleep in. “Studies show people who get less than 6 hours of sleep eat up to 300 calories more during the day because a lack of sleep triggers the production of the hunger hormone, grehlin,” says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. Each extra hour of sleep could save you 100 calories. So don’t set your alarm on Saturday, and if you snooze, you lose.
Clean house. Spend 2 hours getting organized by cleaning your garage or vacuuming and dusting the house to slash about 408 calories. Wear extra layers and switch the hands you use to sweat even more.
Get foot loose. Go out with your friend and move to some live music, or just blast your favorite tunes and dance around your house. Rocking out like this for an hour torches 445 calories—and you’ll be having fun so it won’t feel like exercise.
Go for a ride. Biking is great impact-free cardio—plus you have to engage your core muscles to stay balanced. One hour of biking at an easy pace blasts 272 calories—pedal just twice a week, and that’s more than 6 pounds dropped in a year. To find a bike trail near you, check out traillink.com.
Run some errands. Spend an afternoon food shopping and unloading groceries to burn close to 500 calories. Cook dinner to burn 136 more.
During Your Workout
Switch it up. You can burn up to an additional 250 calories in a half-hour, or 500 in an hour, by incorporating intervals versus exercising at the same pace, says Nolan. Whether you’re swimming laps, running, riding a stationary bike, or using the treadmill, you can increase the calorie burn by picking up the pace to the point where you are so out of breath that you can’t even talk for 30 seconds, then slow down for one and half minutes to recover. “You know you’re doing the 30-second pushes right when you’re grunting or you want to scream,” says Blackburn. Start with a 5-minute warm up, repeat these 30-second intervals eight times, and then recover for 10 minutes.
Take 15. “Even if you’re really pressed for time, you can usually find 15 minutes in your day to exercise,” says Nolan. For the days when you don’t have time to spare, try doing three 5-minute circuits using free weights. “The key is to get your heart rate up while using as many muscle groups as possible to torch up to 250 calories in just 15 minutes.” If you can find two 15-minute chunks in your day to do these moves, you can blast up to 500 calories. Do three sets of this circuit:
90 Seconds: Squat with a bicep curl, and stand to go straight into an overhead shoulder press. Repeat. 90 Seconds: Lunge forward with right leg while raising weights out to side to shoulder level, hold for one second, bring leg back and arms down to return to starting position. Alternate legs and repeat. 120 Seconds: Do a row while standing on right leg to engage your core muscles, repeat for one minute then switch to left leg..
10 Ways to Make Your Marriage Divorceproof.(from the 2 married Daily Show Correspondents)
by Samantha Bee and Jason Jones
"Repeat this spouse-mollifying phrase after us: 'Yes, honey, I will see the Transformers sequel on one of our precious and rare date nights. But on our next excursion, I get to choose a period piece featuring people in bonnets who churn their own butter.'"
Um, I'm usually the one who wants to watch, 'Transformers'. Or 'Ninja Assassin'. In compromise I'll go with my best friend to watch a girly flick. What can I say? I'm more of a 'd*ck flick' kind of chick.
"Repeat this spouse-mollifying phrase after us: 'Yes, honey, I will see the Transformers sequel on one of our precious and rare date nights. But on our next excursion, I get to choose a period piece featuring people in bonnets who churn their own butter.'"
Um, I'm usually the one who wants to watch, 'Transformers'. Or 'Ninja Assassin'. In compromise I'll go with my best friend to watch a girly flick. What can I say? I'm more of a 'd*ck flick' kind of chick.
Dr. Ken Jeong, old BET standup act
http://www.metacafe.com/watch/fd-837f6706bc/dr_ken_old_bet_comic_view_standup/
Dr. Ken old BET standup on MetaCafe.com
I have a love-hate feel for Dr. Ken. I love some of his stuff, but let's be real. Sometimes he does stuff that is so William Hung-esque I feel like what PK said, 'Bro just took us 10 years back.'
This old routine is what got me to follow Dr. Ken, to take a whole group of people, even the announcer who doesn't even know your name or where you come from, and have them in stitches and rooting for you all the way. Dr. Ken looked like he had no fear and he just gave it his all. He represented and he killed it.
Then he does something like, 'The Hangover', and I wonder what's going on in his head.
Dr. Ken old BET standup on MetaCafe.com
I have a love-hate feel for Dr. Ken. I love some of his stuff, but let's be real. Sometimes he does stuff that is so William Hung-esque I feel like what PK said, 'Bro just took us 10 years back.'
This old routine is what got me to follow Dr. Ken, to take a whole group of people, even the announcer who doesn't even know your name or where you come from, and have them in stitches and rooting for you all the way. Dr. Ken looked like he had no fear and he just gave it his all. He represented and he killed it.
Then he does something like, 'The Hangover', and I wonder what's going on in his head.
Diplomatic Honesty. It's An Art That Should Have Its Own Course Number.
Relationship article: "Are You Two Meant to Last"
by Laura Schaefer
Believe it or not, researchers have developed a test that’ll answer this question — with 94% accuracy, no less. Here, we explain how to read your own romantic future as a couple.
Ever wonder if you and your main squeeze will make it all the way to happily ever after? While no one can be 100 percent sure where their romantic future will lead, one
researcher claims he can suss out a couple’s long-term prospects with a mind-boggling degree of accuracy.
This Nostradamus of love is otherwise known as John Gottman, Ph.D., professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington, who has been observing couples for three decades. In one landmark study, he recorded 15 minutes of conversations from 700 couples, comparing the number of positive interactions they displayed toward each other (such as smiles or compliments) to the number of negative ones (eye-rolls, sarcasm, or criticism). From that data, Gottman determined that healthy couples generally adhere to a “magic ratio” of 5 to 1 — that is, a minimum of five positive comments or gestures are offered for every negative one. Ten years later, Gottman and his colleagues checked back with the couples to see who were still together... and found that their predictions were 94 percent accurate. In other words, this “magic ratio” did seem to serve as a crystal ball into a couple’s future!
So what if you’d like to tally up your own chances of growing old with your current amour? Should you be keeping a running chart of every kiss, grimace, and comment you make to each other? Of course not! Gottman recommends couples try staying generally positive; then, the ratio should take care of itself. “Couples who avoid saying every critical thought when discussing touchy topics are consistently the happiest,” says Gottman. If you think that’s easier said than done, consider how simple it is to change an “honest” comment, like: “We’re not staying at your family’s place after the wedding; they drive me crazy” into “I’d really love to get a hotel room for your cousin’s wedding; wouldn’t that be romantic?” This also applies to comments you make about your relationship to friends and relatives, so the next time you’re tempted to wallow in a gripe-fest with a pal about how “We haven’t laughed together in ages,” try reframing it as, “I really miss the times we laughed together — I wonder what I can do to change that?”
by Laura Schaefer
Believe it or not, researchers have developed a test that’ll answer this question — with 94% accuracy, no less. Here, we explain how to read your own romantic future as a couple.
Ever wonder if you and your main squeeze will make it all the way to happily ever after? While no one can be 100 percent sure where their romantic future will lead, one
researcher claims he can suss out a couple’s long-term prospects with a mind-boggling degree of accuracy.
This Nostradamus of love is otherwise known as John Gottman, Ph.D., professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington, who has been observing couples for three decades. In one landmark study, he recorded 15 minutes of conversations from 700 couples, comparing the number of positive interactions they displayed toward each other (such as smiles or compliments) to the number of negative ones (eye-rolls, sarcasm, or criticism). From that data, Gottman determined that healthy couples generally adhere to a “magic ratio” of 5 to 1 — that is, a minimum of five positive comments or gestures are offered for every negative one. Ten years later, Gottman and his colleagues checked back with the couples to see who were still together... and found that their predictions were 94 percent accurate. In other words, this “magic ratio” did seem to serve as a crystal ball into a couple’s future!
So what if you’d like to tally up your own chances of growing old with your current amour? Should you be keeping a running chart of every kiss, grimace, and comment you make to each other? Of course not! Gottman recommends couples try staying generally positive; then, the ratio should take care of itself. “Couples who avoid saying every critical thought when discussing touchy topics are consistently the happiest,” says Gottman. If you think that’s easier said than done, consider how simple it is to change an “honest” comment, like: “We’re not staying at your family’s place after the wedding; they drive me crazy” into “I’d really love to get a hotel room for your cousin’s wedding; wouldn’t that be romantic?” This also applies to comments you make about your relationship to friends and relatives, so the next time you’re tempted to wallow in a gripe-fest with a pal about how “We haven’t laughed together in ages,” try reframing it as, “I really miss the times we laughed together — I wonder what I can do to change that?”
Mental Illness Toys. Seriously, that's what they are
Toys with Mental Illnesses -- (as if I could make this up)
What better way for parents to say they care than, 'You need professional help, fruit of my loins.'
At least with these the kid has proof the parent pointed out / created their neuroses.
Monday, January 3, 2011
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